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On Being A Father

November 6, 2009 by Damian Papworth  
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Becoming a father for the first time is, of course, a big deal. A new life is something to be cherished and treasured and yet at the same time, it’s quite a significant change. There’s someone new coming into your life that you will be responsible for; its your job to make sure your child grows up with a solid roof over his/her head, that there’s enough love to go around, that everything is as it should be.

Fatherhood certainly represents a period of transition. Times are a’changin, as the old tune goes. It’s very common for new fathers to experience a complete theme park ride of feelings; the truth is that it’s not just new or expectant mothers who are feeling emotionally charged. Coming into fatherhood means you’re experiencing a whole new world and it may often become hard to come to grips with all the changes.

Fatherhood is a huge event. It changes you. The life you knew before won’t be the same.

Of course, with these changes, there’s a whole lot of anxieties too. No one is perfectly calm and collected when a new life is on the way. It’s absolutely normal to experience these sorts of fears and worries. Psychologists actually say that the majority of men have concerns about becoming new fathers.

It can be a difficult time in fact, but confronting the common fears that new dads and dads to be are facing can be quite helpful.

Here’s a look at some of the common worries and fears that face new dads to be.

A somewhat chief problem or issue that tends to come about when a new baby is being brought into the home is money. Pocketbooks do get tighter with a new child. Most new parents will probably spend at least $10,000 in the first year alone.

A young child needs diapers, special food, medical attention, clothes, toys, and the list goes on. It’s not exactly cheap to raise a child; but keep in mind too, that expenses can easily be reeled in. A budget needs to be made and stuck to. Of course, there will be some things that you have to give up, going out on the town, for instance, or getting new cars and gadgets may have to hold off. But remember too, that all a baby really needs is love.

Another concern that plagues many new and expectant parents has to do with the health of the child. On the one hand, so many things could possibly go wrong. It’s very easy to get lost amidst those fears and to let those fears get the best of you. But in reality, most babies, the overwhelming majority in fact, are born perfectly healthy. So instead of worrying over what might be, the best course of action to take is to think positively.

Of course, another thing many new dads and dads to be get nervous about is whether or not they will be good dads. It’s a natural concern. But the very fact that you are concerned about being a good father just goes to show that you will be. The simple fact that you care is the first step to becoming a great dad.

All that really matters when you boil it down is love.

Damian Papworth is a loving dad and husband. He went so far as to take his wife shopping recently, she was looking for women’s walking shoes. He found this women’s shoes website very helpful.

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